Dating With Dentures

Posted on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013 at 3:11 am

A common concern among many denture wearers is: How will my dentures affect my dating life? This is a legitimate concern. I mean, the real-estate that your dentures take up happens to be in a pretty intimate location. 

Smiling, laughing, talking, kissing, more talking, more smiling, more laughing, repeat—no wonder there is so much anxiety associated with the prospect of dating with dentures! 
Some just aren’t eager to get into the “denture dialogue” before they’ve even gotten to know the potential mate. I am an open book and never shy away at the chance to tell others about my experience—but there are times even I am like, “Ugh, I really don’t feel like getting into it”. I can think back on times i’ve been in a rush or been focused on other more important things and someone would compliment my smile and as how I keep it so white… and it isn’t that I didn’t want to disclose the information, not at all! It’s just that, sometimes, it totally highjacks a situation. 
For instance. I was in labor with my daughter and the nurses were going over my medical history. It got to the point that they asked about previous surgeries, to which, I mentioned I had dental surgery. I was hoping they would leave it at that but they wanted to know to what extent my dental surgery was. So I told them I had all of my teeth pulled. They were shocked. I understand, completely. Hey, good news for you, they had no idea! But people become curious and that’s fine by me, just not when I am contracting every two to three minutes! I ended up giving them the whole backstory, just trying to be polite. It threw everything they/we were doing through a loop.
Most people would like to avoid that while on a date. You’re out to eat, you’re having light, flirty conversation, can you imagine talking about your extraction process and nightly cleaning regimen? Can you seriously see yourself explaining the slow, agonizing decline of your oral health over candlelit dinner for two?
No! No, no, no, no, no.
So it’s totally natural to be apprehensive in taking someone up on the offer of meeting up for dinner. Especially if you add in the fact that you’re concerned your teeth might fall out, or worse, that the two of you will kiss and they’ll run for the hills! 
First, let’s discuss ‘first impression’. When you first say hello, will they be able to tell up front that something is off? To answer that question, here’s a scenario:
 When you buy a new car, do you not suddenly begin to notice all of the other cars like yours on the road? You never saw so many Acadia’s until you purchased one, right? No, they aren’t copying you—you have just become more aware of their presence now that you have one. 
Most people are not on the look-out for denture wearers. As much as it may seem that your date is determined to detect your dentures, that’s almost certainly not the case. For one, most everyone has the first-date jitters. Everything is sort of a blur, you can’t really focus on too much at once. Your date may notice you have an attractive smile but I doubt they have the time or even the opportunity to fully inspect the situation. So at first glance, unless your denture is as out-of-place looking as a doggie denture, i’m sure they’ve probably not noticed anything out-of-the-ordinary.
Can they detect it when you are laughing? Well, let’s be real, here. When someone laughs, can you detect strange things going on with their palate? Probably not. I know the denture palate is smooth and unnatural but this is not something that can be easily detected when someone is laughing. Personally, I have always been more drawn to the teeth when someone laughs. I may spot out a cavity or what not but never in my life have I been drawn to ones’ palate, that’s just sort of weird. If anyone inspects anything while you are laughing, they will probably just end up admiring the fact that you don’t have cavities.
But what if, during the course of the typical dating scenario, they do catch onto the fact that you wear dentures? What if they call you out on it?
Well, for one, that’s weird. Back to the cavity situation, would you call someone out for having a cavity? How strange is that? When most people imagine their date possibly discovering that they wear dentures, they don’t really delve too much into possible scenarios. Think about it. If your date discovered that you wore dentures, what exactly are they going to do with that information? If they ask you about it, they risk looking sort of nutty. So most likely, they will not really acknowledge it. If they don’t call you back, well, that’s that. Next! Consider it courtesy that they are not wasting your time. If they do call you back, obviously your denture is not a problem.
So, what about kissing? Will they know? I have no idea. I’ve not kissed someone with dentures. My husband insists that he could never feel a difference when we kissed. My husband is a sweetheart and would never want to make me feel uncomfortable. My husband wants to kiss me. Why would he say, “Yeah, I felt a bunch of plastic and it was weird”? That would make kissing awkward for both of us. So, being the gentleman that he is, he’s always stood firm in his position: he can’t feel a thing, whether he can or can’t. This goes back to the ‘first impression’ scenario. If your date can feel something, what are they going to do? Ask you about it? Well, in this situation, they might… but that would mean they must not have been very into the kiss if they would disrupt it with a boatload of questions about your mouth. Right? I mean, that’s my logic. If they are into you and they are into kissing you, chances are, they aren’t going to stop a kiss to investigate your set-up. 
Will dentures affect your ability to kiss? Well, that depends. Do your dentures affect your ability to eat or talk? If so, they may. If your dentures pop out or flop around in other situations, they will probably do the same whilst kissing. Of course this depends on how involved your kissing technique is. Adhesive is advisable, just in case. You could always take it back to the old school and practice kissing on the back of your hand! I kid, I kid.
Many people would also like to know how dentures will affect the more intimate moments, if you know what I mean. As with kissing, the only scenario you have to worry about is if you have a problem with loose dentures. Your dentures aren’t going to “hurt” anyone, if that’s what you’re worried about. 
Overall, dentures should not interfere with your dating life. Yes, you may meet someone who is uncomfortable dating you because of your dentures. 
You may also meet someone who is uncomfortable dating you because you don’t drive a Lexus. 
You may also meet someone who is uncomfortable dating you because you aren’t in a band. 
You may also meet someone who is uncomfortable dating you because your hair isn’t long enough. 
Do you see where i’m going with this? People are either going to want to pursue you or they’re not. If they aren’t feeling it, keep moving! 
I will end on this note: confidence is everything. If you appear to be self-conscious, that is the vibe you are going to let off. If you are insecure about your dentures, it may be apparent that something is off about you. No, that doesn’t mean they will be able to identify your dentures… it just means that they may know you are acting weird about something. Whether or not you disclose your dental status is your business. You can laugh and be confident without feeling that you have to let them in on your dental history. But over time, as the two of you become closer, I would hope you build a relationship on mutual trust and understanding. Nothing is worse than lugging around a deep, dark secret. I’ve exchanged messages with those who either were discovered or had to come clean after years and years of being with their partner. It may seem insignificant to you, but it could really make the other party feel betrayed in a sense.
But during the fun stages, there’s no real reason to have to state up front that you are a denture wearer unless you feel compelled to. Most will probably not be able to tell that you wear dentures and if they can, there’s a strong possibility that they wouldn’t utter a word about it. Kissing and being intimate should not be affected unless your dentures are loose. Have fun, be confident and save the medical history for another day. 

96 thoughts on “Dating With Dentures

  1. There is a certain amount of stigma associated with being a denture wearer, and it is natural for denture wearers to be apprehensive about dating. In terms of appearance, a well-built, good-fitting dentures is virtually indistinguishable from natural teeth. As Kristi states, "confidence is everything." Dentures should improve the quality of your life. If a date is somehow "turned off'" by the fact you wear dentures, look for someone else.

  2. haha, I love this post! I am also a denture wearer and I sometimes forgot they're there; and what's funny is that some people thought my teeth are perfect… LOL… i must admit they made me insecure before, but after my first relationship, i realised that my denture doesn't really matter… my current bf (we're now in our 2 years) asked me once if i'm wearing denture, I just playfully and confidently smiled at him and said "secret", and he never asked me about it ever again. so i guess it's all about how you handle it. I also believe that cultivating inner confidence and great self-esteem helps — of course, these two should not have their foundation on the physical coz all things physical deteriorate over time ^_^

  3. Thank you so much for your story and advice. I am about to start a new relationship after being married for 25 years. I got my dentures around 4 years ago. I have been terrified what my new partner might think, or how I will handle kissing him or he kissing me etc. I have been so scared that he will run a mile, when he finds out or if I tell him. I care about him a great deal and really want this relationship to work. It has been a hard road to build up my self esteem again since I got them. Thank you for your encouragement, you have helped to put my mind at ease.

  4. First off,bull. You really dont think the bright pink pallet wont catch anyones attention with an open mouth….look in a mirror. Second,you think in an oral situation. That smooth plastic pallet will go without notice. I have worn full dentures for years,have a little background in whats,what.

  5. It's a total relief. I'm a denture wearer for 2 months and I'm afraid to kiss someone because I'm afraid that my partner would think it's weird to kiss someone with dentures. Now I know that confidence is the key for everything. Thanks! Such a great help!

  6. Hello Kalin i have question from My Perspective I am 29 old yrs now,i had fake teeth since i was a 15 only front top teeth are false what if you want to Just tell girl on the first date is that ok?

  7. Well, I am not a denture wearer but I am dating one and am not comfortable about it. Moreso, I think he should have told me very early in our relationship. I am moving on, and actually planning to dump him. Sorry people!

  8. I am just starting to talk to to someone who has dentures he's pretty young.. 39. for my life's work I am in dentistry and I had no idea how this would affect me.Here I can watch people's lives changed just by providing them a beautiful smile by way of the denture but at the same time I cannot imagine kissing someone passionately who has them. I'm really struggling with it because I know that before I knew I was just infatuated and now here is this piece that I'm really struggling to get over does anybody have any help with this?I'm hoping it's not nearly as bad as I'm thinking it is or maybe it's not even an issue at all…Help…I am really not a shallow person I just know a lot but I wish I didn't know.

  9. When u mean a lot do u mean like was he a drug addict, or somthing like that? I lost mine all of them to server bone degeneration tried to found out at 47 that I wold lose my teeth within 8- 10 years and here ten years later, totally toothless and divorce for about one year , ready to explor the scene..
    So I guess what I'm asking arE u afraid to ask them, and will u be.ieve there story… My story smoking a lot , and poor dental care

  10. I'm glad I came across this article pleNty of food for thought… I'm completely dentures up and recently divorce, a year to be exact… Although I didn't want to be divorced and I have come to terms a with that, I now have the on going thought all I be accepted. It's has its double edge sword but what a way to determined if some one is genuinely going to stick with u…. If not they leave. If so … Sounds like the beginning of a beautiful friendship!

  11. I read this hoping for an impression of what it feels like to kiss someone as the person *with* dentures. It is one of my favorite activities and I haven't read anything that gives an account from the perspective of one that thoroughly enjoys kissing, then suddenly has dentures.

  12. Me too ! I just got an immediate upper denture today…I highly doubt anyone will know the difference because believe it or not my front teeth were really nice and white anyway..Just had bad bone disease. Day one and although I have lots of healing to do , they look great, But I am so worried as I am 48 and just getting back into dating..I LOVE to kiss ! and passionately ! so Im very worried if my partner to be can tell .And to take it even further ..what about oral sex ? can your partner tell ?

  13. I'm 44, single, and I have had my dentures for 4 months now. I was scared to death to make out with this new guy I'm seeing. I am also very into kissing, it's one of my favorite intimate pastimes! Well, it happened! We kissed- a lot! and he even complimented my "skill". Things got a bit heavier, and I felt like I had to come clean, transparency, honesty and full disclosure is my policy in every relationship. So I told him, his first response was "was it meth or heroin?" and I laughed hysterically! It was from an uncontrolled eating disorder that plagued me for 20 years. He then told me not only it didn't bother him in the least, and that my smile is absolutely beautiful and it makes no difference to him either way. He's a keeper! So now, I am wondering how the oral sex situation is going to be. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I get to that river!!

  14. I came across this just because I'm looking to see what might bother my new guy regarding his dentures. Ok so it was a bit of a shock seeing him without them, but I couldn't see it clearly as I didn't have my lenses in – and well we all have something going on! He kisses brilliantly and I really forget it's a thing, but I think he worries that they're going to come out or something. Which again I don't really worry about… I mean when you consider all the really embarrassing squishy stuff that can go wrong when you're having sex, that seems like a small thing. And when it came down to that stuff, well he was so good that sure as hell was the last thing on my mind. I guess I just want him to know I'm totally not bothered by it x

  15. Are you a man or a woman? My husband has complete dentures (he got them when he was 35) and I rarely notice his dentures when kissing. Unless we are really going at it, my tongue doesn't really touch the roof of his mouth which is slick. Also, as far as oral sex, with or without his teeth, it feels great to me. I wouldn't know fellatio. Hope that helps.

  16. I am an upper denture wearer for about 5 years and it has absolutely deprived me of feeling comfortable in an intimate situation. I became celibate and have really gotten to know myself which was very positive.
    Now, in 2015, we can receive mini dentures, where our denture teeth only are snapped into our gums with titanium(?) snaps at a reasonable cost of about $2200. It eliminates the tight plastic device which reaches far back on the roof of your mouth. For me it feels claustrophobic and I have lost a lot of taste when I cook. The fine nuances are gone.
    I am saving up to get mini implants since I couldn't survive a man screaming "Oh my God"……..she is not all there :)

  17. Iv only had dentures for the past few weeks I am getting used to them slowly.but I'm feeling g down as iv been with my husband for 13 years as we kissed a lot but since having dentures he hasn't kissed me if he does its a quick peck with his eyes closed tight and the the words ( ooo no your teeth might full out) I'm beginning to feel low upset I don't no what to do I love him but I feel ashamed help what can I do ???

  18. totally I agree with the person above you are completely shallow makes me wonder why you even on this site just to validate your disgust of people who have dentures? what is it exactly that you were so uncomfortable with about this poor man's dentures?actually let me rephrase that he's a very lucky man to have gotten rid of you

  19. This is an excellent topic. I have dated many people with dentures through the years-even people in their 20's and 30's, and it made absolutely no difference to me. What I would consider a total turnoff would be a mouth full of rotten teeth or bad breath.

    that being said, my advice to denture wearers is NEVER choose a bright white color. It is goofy and unnatural looking, especially if you wear only an upper or lower plate rather than both and the colors don't match. A good dentist will not allow you to choose a color that is not becoming. An even better dentist is the one who works with a really great lab that does outstanding cosmetic work. He or she will also offer you varying shades for the pink gum area. I recommend a flesh color there rather than a bright pink.

    For a really beautiful upper denture, it is also important that the lower line of your plate does not go around your mouth in a straight line. Make sure that the third tooth on both the right and left side of the plate (teeth # 6 and #11) come down a bit lower than the rest.

    Always use a little adhesive on your plate for maximum comfort when you eat and socialize. When you're alone at night, soak your dentures to clean them thoroughly and give your gums a rest by leaving your dentures out while you sleep.

    Now flash that beautiful smile!

  20. My significant other wants to make out with out his dentures in. I don't. He got his feelings hurt. Said he can't be himself. Any thoughts?

  21. It is what it is…
    Beauty is beauty, oral sex is oral sex, one's skill set is one's skill set, pain is pain and pleasure is pleasure.
    Honestly, I would think a darker pink colored pallet would signify inflammation and/or disease.
    Thanks for the encouragement! 😀

  22. Totally agree with Malecai. He's lucky to not have to spend another moment with her. Btw I'm here researching, my family is cursed with bad teeth and I'm thinking about going the denture route.

  23. To the person that said ready to dumb the denture were wating . Shame on you to even post here you’re hate. Hope in the future you find the perfect soul that fits your ego/needs cause could also be an abuser, child molester,wife beater . To which some can leave you without teeth and then.Let’s hope your rude that you can affordd perfect something that is above dentures or implants . Very rude and selfish your pity comments are . But really so vain.

  24. I started losing my teeth at 14 due to my mother’s mental health problems. She would scrub my teeth with a brill pad and took every bit of enamel off my teeth. They started rotting from the roots. After years of pain, crowns, illness, distress and partial dentures I finally had full dentures aged 34. I’m now 48. Having full dentures affected me massively. I won’t have a relationship. Even my family don’t see me without the dentures. Some don’t even know I have them. I live alone. I won’t go to dentist either as I’m terrified. My dentures are broken, my mouth is sore. I can’t eat or smile and I’m so depressed. I need new dentures and I want a relationship.
    I know iv had dentures too long now to be able to have implants. I feel like my life is over and I’m going to be alone until I die. I can’t imagine me ever being able to tell a date I have dentures. But I couldn’t have a relationship unless I do because I can’t wear them all the time.
    Im shocked to see here that some people have managed and even found partners who don’t mind. But noone has really said if the partners mind when you put your teeth in a glass at night? x

  25. Hi, I am a full denture wearer for 6 months now. 45 years old. The bottom is very loose, and I have recently started seeing a guy. Kissing is great, but what about oral sex? I know they will flop out or clatter around, so should I just take them out? Help!

  26. Hi. I am 26 and upper partial wearer.. i have a slicl plastic plate. I am very afraid my new llove intrest will notice during oral. I dont want to tell him right now. But will he feel it diring oral or can i do it withought him noticing

  27. First to all let me say that folk that are put of by dentures are indeed very vain, and have no compassion for people that wear them. I bet you’re also the type of person that thinks ill of a disabled person. You see there is no difference here. The disabled person didn’t make the choice to be disabled, and neither did the denture wearer. Whatever happened to treating people the way that you wan to be treated? Would you want someone to make fun or not deal with you because you have dentures? It can happen to any of us. Life does indeed happen, and it’s not all pretty. So to you all, put in those gorgeous dentures, hold your head high and strut your stuff. If a person is so superficial as to complain about your dentures that don’t deserve you anyway,

  28. There are things in life nowadays that are known as trolls. They are mentally ill people who get off on being anonymous and spreading hatred and negativity. They have commented on this site. And some seem to be not telling the truth.

    How does a guy who ‘has kissed alot of young people with dentures’ also have advice on what colors to pick and how to wear them? Lol maybe your a dentist?

    And a bitch who says ‘I was dating a guy for years and I wish he would have told me earlier, I’m about to dump him’, your either an internet troll, a real troll, or the the most shallow minded person alive. What about people with cancer, a small sized penis, or people with skin disease?

    I think that some people commenting are kids. They can’t spell, and say things I may have said when I was 15. Aka back when I was dumb.

    I’ve recently gotten bottom dentures. A few friends, family members and a couple ex gfs know and all just point out that everyone has a few things they’re not entirely comfortable with relation to their self esteem. And especially dating. Dating is getting to know someone you like better. Including things they’re not proud of or happy about and accepting them.

    I think people who stumble on this are all curious . Some of us are wondering what it’s like, because adults who are decent people don’t go around proudly saying “I kiss denture wearers all the time it’s great’. Or ‘I dumped a guy because he fooled me for years, I had no idea he had dentures but now I know. I’m leaving him.’ These are not normal things people talk write or post about.

    I have an ex who had a problem (pain during sex) and it didn’t cause me to think any less of her. She was later diagnosed with IC (look it up). She’s proud and confident. I’ve dated people like this and don’t go around posting in forums all pissed off talking shit. It honestly bothered her alot more than it did me. I really just wanted her to realize I was OK with it.

    I think that every time I’ve had a serious relationship it always gottn me ‘over my latest fear’.

    And everytime I’ve told that to someone they say ‘ Yea and I’m uncomfortable with how I *$%#&@%$*”

    Don’t be so worldly, worrying about such little things. Stop watching TV about vain, self absorbed, and FAKE celebrities. All the people most women wanna be are FAKE as hell. Chill out. Don’t let fear run your lives. I was single for long periods of time between serious relationships, my teeth getting worse rapidly as I entered my 30s. Now I have a cleaner mouth than ever. If you have dentures you didn’t go from ‘I have perfect teeth’ to ‘aw shit now I have dentures suddenly’.

    Not everyone is obsessed over your mouth. People have their own insecurities no ones obsessively looking at your teeth except you. Chill. Talk and worry about it another day.

  29. My husband can’t tell the difference between my real teeth and my dentures. Kissing and oral sex are just like when I had my natural teeth. I love my dentures!

  30. Hi I just wanted to reply to Sammy’s Post. I feel a lot of empathy for you. What happened to you was horrific! And obviously how you were abused is the reason as to why you have an irrational and emotional perception of your teeth. Your mouth will be the source of shame for you, it sounds like you haven’t overcome the torture you suffered at the hands of your mother which is why your fears regarding your teeth are so severe. Trust me the problems with your teeth are easily solved, it is superficial and can be sorted with an injection of confidence and a dentist but why would you be able to achieve that after all you’ve been through? I had a tear in my eye when I read your story, there is hope for you, you need to find help to deal with your emotional traumas. You can get better and change you life, yourself and leave the past where it belongs, in the past. You deserve to be happy, just because your mother tried to ruin your life doesn’t mean she should succeed. I have a similar story and it seriously messes a child up but it never resolves its self, you need to get help. I’ve tried all sorts of therapy but the only one that’s worked for me was emotional and regressive therapy, it is scary but it works! I wear Upper dentures, been a year now, you just have to accept that you need them and it is what it is. More people wear dentures than you’d ever think, its stupid that people think fake boobs and dental implants, briged or crowns are different in some way, fake is fake, what’s the difference, what’s the problem?!!! People who think this are complete morons but take no notice and don’t let the idiots bring you down, its more than likely anyway that they will at some point need them too, kalma and all that, well here’s hoping guys! X

  31. I am a fit attractive youngish 63 yr old. My boyfriend is 15 years younger. We have been dating for a year. He doesn’t kiss…. just a quick smooch on my lips while his eyes are wide open looking around. I know because I peeped. We have sex most nights when I stay at his place but no kissing. He only kisses my breasts. His excuse is his dental plate that he has had since early 20’s. He says he loves me but I do wonder!!!!

  32. Ref. Oral Sex:
    I lost some Teeth, (the 2 either side of my Front 2), and had to have an Upper Denture, part way through my last relationship.
    My Partner said that my beauty shone through, because I was beautiful on the inside, and that was what mattered to him!
    As soon as I arrived at his House, he would bring me a Glass, (his best cut Crystal one!), to put my Upper Denture in!!

    I never felt comfortable kissing him anywhere, with my Dentures in, because they were unnatural, and I liked to be totally naked with him!
    As far as Oral Sex went, he always loved it, (without my Dentures!), and I totally got off on his pleasure.

    It’s the person that you love, from the inside out, and, as Mrs O’Hara said: “Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.”

    Although our Sex Life was amazing, up until the day we split up, we were still making Love, including lots of Oral Sex, which was highly unusual, as all of my other relationships had ended, some time after the Sex had stopped!!
    Life and Love contain some Mystery sometimes!!

    Now, we have been split up for more than 3 Years, and I am considering entering another relationship.
    I am nervous about my Upper Denture, because, if I Laugh explosively, or Shout passionately, my Denture flies out of my Mouth!! Oops!
    I was out on a Date, and we were Play Fighting in the Street, and I started to Laugh quite strongly.
    In that moment, my Denture dislodged, and would have fallen out, if I hadn’t have clapped my Hand over my Mouth!!
    This act, made me feel as if I was stifling my Natural Spirt, and my need to Express Freely, because I held back a bit, after that, with things like Laughing.

    At the time, I was 50, and he was 35.
    I am now 51.
    Having a Denture impacts my confidence considerably!
    It’s the only thing that makes me feel Old!
    (I am Blonde still, and pretty fit, due to Yoga and Dance etc.).

    I think that the problem could be because I have a loose, ill fitting Denture!
    I’ve heard about “Colbalt Dentures.”
    I hate the thought of Fixatives.
    My Friend who has Colbalt Dentures says that he can Eat Anything, and he often falls Asleep, wearing them!!
    Maybe I should see HIS DENTIST!!

    If they weren’t wobbly, they’d probably be okay, and I really want to give this relationship a chance to grow, but, in order to do that, I need to feel confident when it comes to Kissing, and I don’t!!
    I have always been someone who really enjoys the sensual side of a Relationship. Making Love is a vital part of that!
    When we have got to know eachother better, yes, I will be totally open, and, tell him, and take it out, especially for Oral Sex, but, at the moment, we are still at the beginning, and it feels too soon to share all!! (My Denture Story, and my Sacred Sexuality!).

    Writing this has been Therapeutic for me, as, in doing so, I have fully realised that, yes, I HAVE to get a Denture like my Friend’s Denture!!
    One that fits properly, that I can rely on, that’s steady, and well made, and supports me to feel more Empowered and Confident, when I Kiss this Man, without Worrying that my Denture will wobble, or, worst still, Fear that my Denture will Fall Out!!

    At the same time, I reckon he would be totally accepting of any Denture episode, as he responds to me, my Spirit, who I am inside, and he goes with the flow, and doesn’t seem to judge people much, particularly over superficial things!!

    Message for Sammy:
    My Mother was Bipolar, and it has taken most of my Life, to release the Trauma from my Childhood, discover who I am, and feel entitled to have a full and fun Life!!
    I existed before. Shut off, and Scared, in my Safe Space, my Home. Not really Living and Enjoying the Beauty of Life*
    You deserve to feel Love*
    For me, it began, when I started to Like my Self, and then, Love my Self, warts and all!
    I began to be my own Best Friend, and now, I make myself Laugh alot, and I give myself “Pep Talks,” when my old Childhood Programming/Patterns are stopping me from moving forward, I encourage myself, kindly, and with supportive words, and maybe a sweet treat for afterwards!!

    YOU Live in Your Skin, Sammy, so slowly start to build a relationship with yourself up that’s compassionate, with a real sense of connection.
    The better you know yourself, and the more you like yourself, the more likely you are to attract someone similar!
    Someone who likes you, and wants to get to know you more!

    And, as some of the other Posts have said:
    If someone has an issue with your Dentures, walk away, because, in a way, our Dentures are a Test for whether someone wants a deep connection, or a superficial pretend relationship!

    And, the better your relationship is with yourself, the less likely you are to be affected by their lack of humanity, or to let them abuse you, by putting you down, and making you feel rubbish about your Dentures, and/or, yourself!!

    After everything that you’ve been through, you deserve to experience Love of Life, including a Real Romantic and Longterm Love, with another Human*

    I had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from my Childhood, and Regressive Therapy/Trauma Release Work, really helped me!

    Start small.
    Don’t set yourself up for a fall.
    Baby Steps make Big Dreams come True.

    Keep telling yourself that you are Lovable, and you are worthy of great Love*
    Begin by Loving yourself, as you are, where you are, right now, in this moment*

    Love, Light & Bountiful Blessings to you, Sammy*

  33. SAMMY, I doubt the medical technology in the US is behind the one in the UK. Therefore – go to the dentist. If you are really afraid, they will inject you with something and you won’t care what they’re doing, they’ll also put some misty goggles on your face, so you won’t see properly what they do. A full set of dentures fitted on implants (6 upper, 4 lower implants) costs about 15000£(roughly 20000$) in the UK, but you can also do that in Eastern Europe where the cost is about 5000£(around 7500$). I lost my teeth because I was afraid of the dentist. Losing them caused me to lose out on many nice things in life. I wear regular dentures, for the moment, but I’m saving for dentures on implants. Please help yourself and go and fix them. If you don’t have the money, start saving, then, if the cost is too high in the US/Canada/Mexico, go to Eastern Europe. Don’t kill yourself like this. Best of luck to you ! You are not alone, we are legion 😀

  34. Im a fifty two year old about to get just a top denture and concern about dating with them. Im single after a long marriage and work hard to look good physically but found out Im losing my top teeth to bone loss.

  35. Hello, im 45 dating a lady 38 yo and she told me that she was really attracted to me, she was always looking for me, by the moment I told her that I have to use dentures she started stepping back, when I had my surgery she never show up not even to say hello or how are you by txt, and she left me. Sad because I was really loving her, but it is what it is… now I don’t know if I have to talk about my dentures if in the future someone appears in my life again.
    Sorry for my English.

  36. I have been wearing dentures for a month now and i just started dating this guy that i like alot, my question should i tell him that i wear dentures, im afraid to tell him, because i think he may not like me afterwards,

  37. I had upper dentures at 16 & lower dentures at 20. My teeth were very chalky and would break easily. I have had implants now for 25 years with an over denture.
    My dentist wants me to get porcelain crowns and bridge. It is very expensive. I am very self conscious about having dentures, but am concerned that people will notice a big difference withe crown and bridge. My husband is very supportive and wants me to do whatever makes me feel better about myself. I am concerned that everyone will notice a big difference and I haven’t told my friends that I have dentures.

  38. No one really answered if a man can tell im wearing upper dentyre during oral sex for him. Plz someone? Any tips? I lost my teeth due to tumor. I have a prosthetic but it fits great and tight. Still the roof of my mouth is HARD. How to deal? Thx in advance!!

  39. I’ve loved reading this thread. I’ve had my dentures (4 front top teeth) for a few weeks. I had crowns fitted after my daughter sucked all of the calcium out of me 21 years ago. But my teeth were failing…
    I’m very concious of them and have been single for nearly 4 years anyway. I have some hope now…

  40. I m 36 years old . and i have fack teeth since 12years ago i ve never had relation with girls in my life. Recently i tried to date with my cousine . But it was catastrophique for me . Because che knows i have dentures .it s hard and i dont know what i did to woth that . I finnaly found a solution :its my problem no one else is involved in .
    so it is it.

  41. I unfortunately lost all my teeth and am in the process of getting dentures. Eventually upgrading to implants. Other than that people always are commenting on how well build and strong I am. Others like the fact that I’m a guitarist\ bassist, singer. Following in the footsteps of my grandfather who’s my namesake. I’m a 3rd. Most women and some guys are seriously jealous of my thick auburn hair and my sum what hypnotic blue eyes. I’ve been often referred to as being devilish smart and handsome. Although all of these things happen to me. I’ll always be some what insecure about what women think of me. And it majorly depresses me at times. But Everytime a beautiful woman flirts with me or has something to do with me. It makes me feel awesome knowing they don’t like me for my appearance and that they actually like me for my own smart ass. Because I am witty or so I’ve been told over and over again. All that aside. I wouldn’t give two shits if a girl wore dentures or had implants. Stuff like that doesn’t matter. Life is too fucking short to worry about stupid flaws that you can only try to fit a little at a time. Often times I wish I could meet a woman around my age (31) would come into my life. To help support each other. Life is already hard enough to manage without having to worry about whether or not someone finds you sexually attractive, because of your teeth. I guess I’m just not a narsassist. Women that have to wear them I feel for the most though. Because of their need to feel beautiful. Most of you don’t realize how beautiful you are. Just a thought.

  42. I unfortunately lost all my teeth and am in the process of getting dentures. Eventually upgrading to implants. Other than that people always are commenting on how well build and strong I am. Others like the fact that I’m a guitarist\ bassist, singer. Following in the footsteps of my grandfather who’s my namesake. I’m a 3rd. Most women and some guys are seriously jealous of my thick auburn hair and my sum what hypnotic blue eyes. I’ve been often referred to as being devilish smart and handsome. Although all of these things happen to me. I’ll always be some what insecure about what women think of me. And it majorly depresses me at times. But Everytime a beautiful woman flirts with me or has something to do with me. It makes me feel awesome knowing they don’t like me for my appearance and that they actually like me for my own smart ass. Because I am witty or so I’ve been told over and over again. All that aside. I wouldn’t give two shits if a girl wore dentures or had implants. Stuff like that doesn’t matter. Life is too fucking short to worry about stupid flaws that you can only try to fit a little at a time. Often times I wish I could meet a woman around my age (31) would come into my life. To help support each other. Life is already hard enough to manage without having to worry about whether or not someone finds you sexually attractive, because of your teeth. I guess I’m just not a narsassist. Women that have to wear them I feel for the most though. Because of their need to feel beautiful. Most of you don’t realize how beautiful you are. Just a thought.

  43. I have just broke my bridge which I’ve had for 21 yrs I’ve been told that it can not be fixed and I will need denture !!!!!!!
    I’ve come out of a long realtionship , so back on single scene . I’m really worried scared about having denture firstly I’m told I have a lovely smile & I like deep kissing . Plz any advice will be gratefully revived …… help

  44. I had beautiful straight teeth my whole life until i had my only child(took 4 years but it happened!) after childbirth my teeth wrnt to heck and i mean crumbled. It got to point i could only eat broths. At 27 my oral surgeon suggest magnetic dentures but my gums wouldnt hold so i got regular. I did immedieate and no lie the first week is the worst but if u grin and bear it…no pun intended it does get better. Aftet first 3 weeks im able to eat any foods i wanted ! And the compliments on beautiful smile just help my confidence! One i nevet had before since i didnt smile to cover gaps.now a year later i absolutely love them. As a single mom in 3 years not one man has even noticed. Immediate is painful but better than implants and you can eat everything you ever wanted(im a candy buff and can eat all my favs i had to give up years ago even candy apples!) the first few weeks are awkward and painful but you do adapt and trust me no one can tell! They just think your a pretty gal w gorgeous teeth..and so what if they do..hell we’ll all loose our teeth sometime and if they’re that superficial they’re not worth your time! Eating ..kissing..sex.Kissing..not one man has ever noticed… Even when i tell them.its like what no i didnt know ! many men have them too unnoticeably…romance is just as great as it was before ! 30 yr f U.S.A. just give it time and i promise that smile is worth it :-) and like all things its what you put in. If you keep positive and love those perfect whites each day will be better until yoy dont notice and its just regular life. Hope and prayers to alll.. I know ots rough nust give it some time and life eill be as normal as it always was:-)

  45. I am so happy to find a place to discuss this because there are so many “secret” thoughts and feelings about denture wearers and mostly from those of us who are wearing them. Many people believe that we should hang up any idea of love, romance or dating after we have our dentures. I have always been a rebel, and now as an active, still working and advocating for other seniors, woman I would love to date again. After two bad marriages and a whole lot of physical and emotional pain, I feel that I deserve it. Briefly, I would like to mention that at age twenty seven I had to have a full hysterectomy. I had given birth to six healthy babies and had five miscarriages. I had no idea that I was not supposed to tell a man I could no longer have babies. I thought it would be impressive that I was still alive and I KNEW I had given birth to enough children. A man whom I thought really loved me asked if I ever thought about having more kids and I laughed and told him, “Of course not, I have five ( one died when she was two years of age) already” and he went into such a rage. Told me I had tricked him and that every man wants a child who looks like him. I thought he was joking. I even joked that perhaps he could find someone in my bunch who looked remotely like him. He packed his things and left THAT night, calling me an empty woman who was no more good for anything.
    Well, this “empty” woman has gone on with her life, raised those children to adults, raised three grandchildren while attending college and have worked in various high end jobs as well as written and published two books. I do public speaking and run a community store and garden in the senior place where I live and work. I work only part time now, but two years ago, due to all kinds of health problems, I had to have 21 teeth extracted in one day and immediate dentures placed. My gums shrank and the state insurance that I have did not provide money for the adjustments and liners I needed, so for two years I have taken supplements, exercised, tried to eat right because as beautiful as my dentures are…they were too big, gave me an obvious “monkey lip” and with all the glue in the world, would begin to loosen and even if I took a sip of water. I had run out of excuses for not eating in public and I missed “going out” for lunch with the girls…my grands, etc.
    I am thankful for a family that is supportive and loving. No one could come up with over $2,000 to get help for me, but a month ago, a new friend took me to her dentist. I got my adjustments last week and though I have not mastered chewing, I no longer have to use glue except for extended hours and even then only minimal. The monkey mouth look is gone and I am so very thankful! The dentist asked how I could have endured both pain and loose, ill fitting dentures all this time. It’s because I am a trooper!
    Just as when my son and another child died years ago, I have learned a motto from my grief group…it is called living the “new normal”. I am embracing life and got my certification as a life coach for seniors, I lead a bible study here for those who want it and I feel so blessed to be alive. I am saying to all, young and older who are going on your first, second or more denture adventure, hang in there….this is just another part of your life. Let no one put you down or make you feel as if you are “less than” because of the absence of teeth. The first time I looked in a mirror and was shattered to see only gums, I thought of the people who have to look in a mirror without breasts, without legs or arms, with faces burned from war or abuse. I think of those who wear colostomy bags or have other chronic illnesses and I think, “Oh, am I gonna cry about some teeth?” My breath is good and I am alive! Hang in there people…it gets better! Believe me!

  46. …..to the above – strong courage in face of all the adversity in your life – including the loss of children – The worst pain of all – I know, I’ve been there. And to all those who have shared having dental prosthesis…it’s your attitude that means everything – you demonstrate it well! In my profession – dentistry, I have found that it’s the patient, at times that is more concerned about having dental prosthetics than the observer, friends and loved ones. It’s the radiance that you project that is picked up on faster than your dental condition – this can be improved by self help, good friends and life style changes. There are cases in which a dental condition or prosthesis can be awkward…and even embarrassing occasionally – which normally can be offset with a good sense of humour. Let’s get to the facts…if you have uncomfortable or ill fitting prosthesis – find a good and compassionate dentist to help and give you options.
    Some of my patients saved their money and invested in implants; and love their implant retained prosthesis(i.e. dentures)…that along with life style changes made a tremendous difference in how they feel and present themselves. A final note – before my retirement and having administered dental health for many years, I had a temporary dental assistant who filled in for a day from another office…this woman wore removable dentures – you would never know it – she was one of the most delightful and spirited dental assistants I have ever met. I had just about all my patients come up to me after they were escorted out by her that said just how wonderful she was – I would have hired her full time in a second, however she had her commitments as administrative and training at the other office…her dental prosthesis were well fitted and appearance was very good – after that, it was all her with a great personality that shined through as caring for others. That what it takes…

    Respectfully,
    DMD

  47. I seem to have the problem with them feeling my dentures in my mouth and them running away saying OMG he has dentures in his mouth I may be 43 y/o I wouldn’t want that to happen to me i’m sure you know how I would feel ?

  48. is there a dating website which specifically caters for people who wear dentures.if so I would be grateful to know

  49. No guy has ever mention, or asked about it from appearance. They usually just say I have a nice smile. I was nervous when I began dating someone long term. He still never mentioned it so obviously the kissing was fine, and didn’t feel different to him. I was in a coma for 2 days in ICU and had to be intubated and on a ventilator. The bottom partial fell out but they had no clue I had a full upper (yes I use adhesive daily) and trust me they are really in your mouth seeing everything while trying to put a tube down your throat. Am I still nervous even though I haven’t had a bad experience….yes. Especially when eating out. My dentures don’t fit right I NEED adhesive and even with that I can feel them loosen while chewing. I would be mortified if they became so loose and moved while on a date. I actually never even wear them at home because the don’t fit and feel uncomfortable.

  50. I’m a denture wearer even I have been with a dentist ever since 6 yo, and not boasting but I look good, face and body wise. Lot of men pursued me, they never notice I wear dentures. I don’t really get into dates so I don’t worry on kissing. I am confident and smart with what I am although somehow I wish I have a natural teeth with the chewing discomfort sometimes or maintaining it. Then I got involved with a guy and he liked me kissing him but we broke up because of other things. I have this guy who’s I felt so loved and adored, and he makes me happy always and can’t stand without communicating with me. I told him all things in me are natural except my teeth which I get sad when I mentioned, he always say, you are so perfect to me. And I am always amaze how he appreciate and compliment me. It all depend on how you accept yourself and feels about dentures, and with the true feelings for you with your partner.

  51. I’ve been wearing upper dentures for about eight years now. I got them as a result of a bad car accident I was in when I was 26yrs old. I was horrified when I found out I would be a denture wearer at such a young age, but I had to look at the big picture in that I was lucky I survived the car accident. Eight years later and still the only people I have ever told are my parents. I think a big factor in regards to people being able to tell if you have dentures is in your facial structure. My teeth never overly showed much when I talked before, so that helped plus it decreased the chances of them falling out. Really the only two times they have all the way fallen out so far have been when I got drunk and violently puked in the parking lot lol. Luckily you couldn’t tell because I was puking. As I’ve gotten older I’m way more careful because your dentures landing on asphalt (or even the bottom of a toilet bowl) could do some real damage. So take note to be careful when puking.
    Let me also address oral sex . It seems people shy away from details so here is a more blunt response. First I am a woman so that’s the perspective you’re getting and I have only an upper so I can’t confirm what having both is like, however in every relationship I’ve been in, they have all said I give them the most amazing “experience” they’ve ever had. I’m really good at it and I love doing it (which is what matters most in giving a good “experience”) I suggest if you are nervous about it, use a banana first. It will give you an idea of how well your dentures will stay put on their own or if you need to use your lips to cover your teeth which without dentures helps to not scrape his thing, and in your case, it helps keep your teeth in place and offer more suction. Just like how you had to adjust doing other things when you got dentures, you might need to change your technique up a bit, but trust me you can still be amazing at it!
    Judging by what I said above, you may have the impression that I’ve adapted pretty well to the denture life, however, I have a huge confession.
    I have never told any man I have ever dated that I have them. The person I’m in a relationship with now I have been with for six years. We live together, but I still have never told him. I’ve gotten stealthy at hiding it. Remember I got these when I was young, and I know better than to think a guy is going to be whatever about it. I look crazy without them in, and would never want anyone to see me like that. I would rather a topless photo of me go viral than a denture less one. It’s not that I lack self-confidence, it’s just me being realistic. Just like how I don’t fart in front of him either lol. Have I ever thought about telling him? Of course, but I know once I tell him there is no going back…and that scares the hell out of me.
    I know one of the first questions I’m sure people have is, how do you hide it at night when you sleep? Therein lies the bigger issue…literally! I sleep with them in…. (I can hear the gasps from you guys as you read that) I know it’s bad, but I do it anyway because to be honest even if I did tell him, I would still never want him to see me without them in. I do take them out when he’s gone, but that’s never for the recommended six to eight hours. More like two or three at best.
    I know I’m over here writing a novel, but I have a few questions. As denture wearers our facial structure will start sagging over time. Has anyone had any plastic surgery, face lift, injections or anything like that to help? Or any facial exercises or techniques as a preventative? (Please no lectures about having work done.)

  52. My girlfriend wears complete dentures. Upper and lower. i didn’t know that she had them until much later when she and i were french kissing. i asked her the dreaded question and she was embarrassed after admitting that she is a denture wearer. She was afraid that i would leave her. Of course i was at first taken aback and asked her how long she had been wearing them. She told me she had them since her mid teens. Ever since she became less shy talking about it, the denture thing didn’t bother me at all. i guess it all has to do with being comfortable with yourself.
    We have fun at times when she removes them just to check on my reaction. We would laugh when she talks and sings gibberish without her teeth. i would pull her over, hug her so tightly, and kiss her like there is no tomorrow. i have become so accustomed and so used to her toothlessness. I admit that she and i had become a lot more intimate. She has become a part of me. In a way, the denture thing turns does me on and i think she notices it.
    If you asked me if there is any difference when kissing … only when she kisses without her dentures. Her lips are so soft.

  53. I have a partial denture , right slap bang in the middle of my lower jaw.
    It is mainly due to gum disease, I’m type 1 diabetic and in the UK.
    Not that my location would effect, just so you know and so on.

    I feel really down about it right now, as I am single for the moment and have a date lined up. I have poligrip and fixadent [adhesives] so it should be ok. Just it will effect what I can eat and and make me self conscious laughing.

    There are other mobile teeth, but grade 1 [ which is the lowest and not the worst] Also had an extraction for my back molar [ no denture extension to there] as it was a dead tooth.

    I have such anxieties building up and the thought of people finding me unattractive due to it and so on makes me think to much. I am an over thinker sometimes.

    So yeah i am also 43, I am trying as much as i can to look after my teeth, but with diabetes and gum disease it feels like a loosing battle.

    My feet, eyes and so on are fine right now. I look after my feet and wear glasses.

  54. Glad to have found this site. I JUST had to have all my teeth pulled with full top and bottom plates.I’m 36. I’ve only had them a week and this just kinda popped in my head today. Its obvious to friends and family I got it done because before dentures all my teeth except 3 were broken off. I had bad enamel growing up and drug use in my 20s. Its not something I do anymore now but the damage was done and i paid the price for it. I found this site just googling. It gives me hope that I may findbthat special someone regardless of my dentures as dating was impossible with my old “chewed up oreos” teeth. I’m pretty confident as far as personality goes so I would assume that when the moment comes to spill the beans it wont go horribly wrong. Fingers crossed.

  55. I am a woman, when I had an upper partial I hooked up w/a guy & when we kissed he asked why the roof of my mouth felt like plastic-I think the fact that we had been drinking & there was no usual politeness or inhibitions the true thoughts just popped out of his mouth, I was of course mortified, because it was the 1st time anyone had ever actually mentioned it & I’d always wondered if it was noticable.. so yes it was! Anyone else in my life I’d ever kissed NEVER mentioned it-I’m sure because it didn’t matter to them AND because they cared about my feelings! I hope this helps anyone who’s wondering about this situation. Last week i finally just got the all-on-4 implants (i found out about this procedure because of your Youtube vids Kristi-thank you, its changed my life!)

  56. Dentures suck, I have a tora , which means my bone in roof of my mouth is bigger than normal, have to glue it in Everytime I eat something, I hate it and it has really messed up my life, life, I don’t have a life , when I smile , they come loose , always so afraid they will fall out.

  57. I’m about to have both upper and lower dentures, never a drug addict or pot or drinker, quit smoking regular cigs ten years ago, I would be honest to say that my teeth are from soda and smoking camels for 30 years, I’m now 53 , I haven’t dated its been years now, I used to do the weekend stands couple hundred and kissing was fabulous so will it still be is the question , confidence I’ll get back, but only looking for one now and only one, so finally getting dentures, better then suicide I figured and finally went to dentist, in six months I’m leaving the country for a full mouth/restore implants, hopefully prior all meet my one and only, not up for killing myself but think about it , so am I nuts or lonely , crazy fun still yes, any advise out there??

  58. I was married for 16 years and he never knew. I’ve always hated the fact I had to have them at an early age, 21, and find it personal and no one’s business.

  59. If you can’t escape denture fate because of medical reasons and lack of money to pursue another remedy, you won’t have a choice, but be aware that you will age 30 years in a single day, when your dentures are not in place. It’s not about kissing my husband when I have my dentures in place; it’s about not having any lips (because they have effectively collapsed inwards) to kiss him goodnight with when the dentures are out. It’s about not wanting to have that old crone face where chin and nose seem to arc towards each other imprinted on his consciousness; an old crone face I didn’t have yesterday and one which appears every time the dentures are out, as we cross in the night getting up to go to the bathroom, saying goodnight, saying good morning. If it is an image that horrifies me, no matter how kind he is it can’t help but horrify him too, although he would never say so.

  60. I had to get full dentures at the age of 35. I was drowning in years of costly monthly dental bills from repeatingly fixing crumbling teeth over and over. I have Lupus and because of the disease and all the medications it gave me severe dry mouth and made my teeth soft and caused then to crumble. So I was just throwing money away. I got dentures. I like them. But don’t love them. They don’t stay in your mouth!!! I put the stuff on them to try and glue them down. What a hassle, what a mess, and it doesn’t hold all day long or all that well. The seal gets loose when u eat certain things. You can kiss with them on. But as far as getting intimate… and also staying the night is hard because u can’t take them out to soak them. it’s a challenge!!!!! The best and only way, if u can afford it, is implants done.

  61. Hi There!
    I am a woman of 48 from the Netherlands and all my teeth will je extracted on the 12th of may. I het nu dentures immediatly in. Gespot scared but looking forward to a bright new smile. I don’t care want anybody thinks! So people give me some positieve experiences because i am also scared. Here in Holland they do the extraction at the dentist not in the hospital where they put you to sleep.

  62. I think either way with or without dentures it should not matter if you allow Dentures to stop you from dating someone you are very shallow. If you are dating someone because they don’t have dentures and have real teeth or not dating someone because they do have dentures that’s horrible it is not their dentures that make that person it is that person that makes them it is what is inside of their heart and what is inside of your heart you fall in love with that person not their dentures think about it

  63. I expeced to have my implants by the time a “friemd” comes to visit. Instead I have dentures which I hate. My lip sticks out (top) and I feel UGLY. When I remove it sucks back and I feel like Bubba Gump. Will not remove this crap for 4 days HHATE MY DECEPTIVE DENTIST

  64. I love all the positive things that you have said as I am going to be getting my teeth pulled for dentures and my question is are you able to drive home after they are the surgery? Thanks

  65. I had all my teeth removed a few years back, & the dentures I was prescribed make me gag big time when even only the top denture is in. Am I doing harm to my jawbones by not wearing my dentures? My wife & I are both fine with me not wearing my dentures. Surprisingly, I can still eat steak, pizza, all my favourite foods with no discomfort. I guess I have toughened up my oral surfaces.

  66. one day maybe technology will come up with dentures in which the roof of the mouth is mimicked with maybe…rubbery material or ridges or something. OR , maybe they could some day be made like bottom dentures, (maybe with the snap in implants) and they can just fit over the gums and leave the roof open? I really think that shouldn’t be all that hard. but ..who am I? lol

  67. Hi, I’m not being forward, I’m just asking a serious question in my eyes I’m wondering if I have dental implants in my jaw will this effect my ability to perform erotic Felatio?

  68. Who licks the roof of someone’s mouth while kissing”
    Was a bit down about having dentures and relationships until I read this comment and I burst out laughing! Thank you whoever made that comment; you’ve made my day ! 😁

  69. I am in the process of losing my teeth, right now I can’t afford dentures feel privileged you’re not walking around like I am missing 3 or 4 teeth in a row. My boyfriend recently dumped me on Valentine’s day, I’m sure my sudden lack of teeth had a lot to do with it…. I’m 44 years old homeless and toothless……my nickname used to be beauty queen but not anymore….ain’t life grand.

  70. I am in a new relationship. I got top dentures 4 months ago. They look good and fit good. We have kissed but that is it. He wants oral and I want to give him oral but I am scared! I wear my dentures ALL the time. I take them out at night but no one has seen me with out them. And he never will! I hate how I look with out them! Can I give good oral without him knowing???

  71. Hi Christina I also have full dentures and have had oral sex from women who also wear dentures had no problem or complaints either way . But if worked about it that much there are plenty of things to stick them in lie Werner’s fixture powder for the top denture or fixodent for bottom dentures . My top denture is a metal based denture much better then the pink plastic ones to as they are thinner and sit deeper in your mouth , ask your dentist on next visit . Good luck out there saying all this I have been single for the last year lol x

  72. My BF and I had been intimate, kissed a lot and othernoral things and I did not know he had a full set of dentures for several months. It never occurred to me so I never noticed. I figured it out after a few clues were left around and when I moved in with him I finally asked him. He is VERY self conscious about it and really was hoping he could keep it secret for a while. But I don’t care. I love him no matter what!

  73. Am 27 I have lived for 15 toothless bt am planning to put on dentures they r already in process…Hope to enjoy the new experience

  74. I can’t wait to get my dentures. I’m a 51 yr old male. Never even had a cavity until I was 35 and that was because of my own dumbness opening a beer bottle that broke it then cavity then root canal and years later infection…that contributed to my last few years of my top teeth getting bad lost front 3 and couple others breaking off ..just got 14 pulled today..all remaining top gone…3 bottom ones on bottom back gone.Getting my top dentures next week.
    I’m a nice looking guy…but my confidence has been shattered these last few years.
    My ex..who I broke up with a year ago was 10 years younger than me…she was a mean drunk that would call me one tooth..and all sorts of wonderful names.
    I’ve been on one date since breakup..girl from high school who really wanted to get together..I was reluctant because of teeth..anyways we met up for lunch..I was upfront with her not trying to hide the fact..told her I had been to dentist and was getting fixed..she acted like it was no problem…guess trying to be polite…but I’ve never heard from her again…lol
    This other girl I used to go out with 25 years ago..we’ve been talking for the last year..I know she’s wondering why the hell hasn’t he asked me out yet…well because I really do like her..and I don’t want her to run away…so I can’t wait for my new teeth so I can ask her out..or have the confidence to go out to meet other women.
    Oh and btw my ex still won’t leave me alone..no way I’d ever put myself through that horror again. I’d remain single the rest of my life.
    Also be glad to have infection out of my body now from the bad teeth.
    So if any single sweet sane women out there in my age range who are facing confidence issues like I am because of this wanna hmu..I have a semi live in va. But travel to Texas and everywhere I want really. my email is guitarjammer@yahoo.com
    If not I’ll just be rolling down the road now with my new puppy and a new smile..lol
    Good luck to everyone! Peace.

  75. Okay so I have upper dentures and my first meet with a guy I met online is tomorrow morning and we are even going to be in the rain on a trail walk, I am not sure if I should tell him before the meet or just meet and see what happens, any options??

  76. I’ve been with my fiance for 2 years, he has NO idea. When I moved in he bought me a new toothbrush and floss. We’ve obviously kissed, he didn’t notice. I’ve given him oral he hasn’t noticed. My best friend works in dentistry for 20 years and when she first saw me she said you you got your teeth fixed, they look great, not you got dentures (trust me she would have said you got dentures if she noticed). I still feel self conscious but nobody has questioned me in the 5 years since I had them

  77. I’m 38 and I will be having extreme dental surgery to remove all but 8 of my lower teeth. I lost mines due to dental phobia. So I never went to the dentist. I’m nervous about kissing and oral sex and if they will look really bulky and make my mouth look like mister Ed. My dad had dentures and he wasn’t ever right. They hurt his gums and made tons of saliva stay in his mouth all the time. So he spit alot. I’m a foodie and wonder if things will taste the same. Will I lose my passion for food. I’m not super social but when I want to be I’m scared of someone asking me about them or if they slip loose or something. I had a bf who said he didn’t mind them. And told me that I could just take my teeth out to give him oral sex. I’m down with that but only in the dark or if his eyes are closed and he isn’t looking at me. I wish to be comfortable wit myself. (Since then me and that bf have broken up)
    Funny thing is that I’ve reconnected with an old love and he has no teeth. He lost his due to years of smoking and poor veins in his gums. I haven’t seen him face to face yet. But I’m eager to see him. We were so very passionate in our past love. I kinda like it that he can understand or sympathize with what I’m going through. He doesn’t wear dentures, due to not having his insurance cover enough of the cost. So he is saving up. I wonder what it will be like to kiss a man with no teeth. But I’m not exactly afraid the try it. I’m wondering what oral sex will feel like when he is licking me down below my navel. I imagine it feeling like when I’m sucking an oyster out of the shell. Soft and slippery…and I’m all for that. I think it might me more intense. And like I said above I’m willing to return the favor but I’m scared to death for him to look at me while I’m doing it. I hate feeling so vulnerable and timid…scared shitless! But to all that have dentures or love someone with dentures. Or are dating someone with dentures please be kind. Even if your not feeling it or can’t get past it. Just be mindful.of how you let them down. It’s already enough ugliness and hate in this world. And the suicide rate is high. You never know what somebody is feeling and dealing with that they may have put to the side to trust you with opening up about their dentures.

  78. I like how you said that dentures should not interfere with your dating life. I recently had to get dentures. Thanks for the dating tip for someone with dentures.

  79. I had my upper partial dentures (specifically 2 of my front teeth) since I was in second year high school. I did my best to keep it a secret from my friends and everyone around me, of course except from my family. It was because of my poor hygiene as a kid and I really regretted it …like I should have been consistent on brushing my teeth and stopped eating chocolates or any sweets when i was a kid and my parents don’t really pay attention on my teeth and i was always lazy to brush it too… if only I did those things before maybe just maybe i won’t be as depressed as i am now. That i would be able to smile while showing my teeth. I never wish for people to know about this because i’m afraid and i also don’t want them to make fun of me. I’m such a crybaby honestly. Now I am 19 (about to graduate) and I like a guy who told me he has a crush on me. We’ve been chatting with each other for months now and I also want to get to know more about him. I know I’m beautiful and kind as a person. But I am afraid that once he found out about my secret, he’ll be turned off and then stop pursuing me. And it’ll probably hurt me a lot. Well yeahhhh, I know that if a guy really loves you, he’ll accept everything about you but I can’t help being worried of not finding the guy who’ll accept me for who i am and love me even i already have dentures. I really envy my mom for finding someone like my dad who accepted her for who she is. :)

  80. Oral sex problem: My lover enjoys oral sex from me, and I enjoy giving. I have upper and lower flippers for 3 uppers around 1 middle large upper tooth. After numerous sessions (about 16 – 20 over 8 months) he got the courage to ask me if I would do without partial. Told me an edge of my upper partial was hurting him sometimes. I’m concerned without upper, the teeth, especially will be sharp on him. Any ideas how to make edges of “upper flipper” smooth — sealed?

  81. I have been wearing dentures for 4 months. I met a guy I really like. I love french kissing and was afraid that he was going to notice. But he really wanted to kiss and so did I. Sooo…I did. He never said a word. Never asked any questions. As a matter of fact he wants to passionately kiss me all the time. I took my chances and faced my fears. I didn’t want to have to go without being able to passionately kiss a man again out of fear. If he does notice, he hasn’t said a word so far. And it sure hasn’t stopped him from wanted to kiss! My advice is, go for it. Face your fears and just kiss! If they notice and say something, then address it. But if they don’t say anything, then leave it alone and enjoy yourself!!!

  82. Thank you for the wonderful post. I’m going to practice kissing my hand to become more confident. Thank you, thank you, thank you :)

  83. I have dentures now 44 and I been single since 2006 cause of an abusive relationship and never found someone to love and probably never will cause I can not afford to get new dentures. I can not wear the bottoms so of course there all going to notice for sure..

  84. Although an old thread I am in desperate need of advise. I started dating last year with a new set of dentures and because of my own insecurities I lost a potential life partner because I kept it a secret and never would kiss him. My dentures are too white too it’s starting to become an big issue all around. I am seriously depressed. I need advise and help not fluff. Help

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